Showing posts with label Marriage Counseling. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage Counseling. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 22, 2016

What’s Marriage All About?

What’s Marriage All About?
3-23-16
Wednesday
Relationship Day


What’s Marriage All About?

It’s whatever you want it to be about.
Uh-oh! I forgot to tell you,
That the “you” I mentioned above,
Is really about the two of “you”.
That changes everything!

Now I have to think about me and her
Not just me.
This is getting complicated.
I’m not used to thinking about someone else.
This is new to me.

Oh boy! I’m not so sure of this anymore.
Maybe I’ll have to make some changes.
Maybe I’ll have to listen to her more.
She might have her own thoughts on stuff.
And they may be just a little bit different from mine.
I may have to rethink what marriage is about. 
I don’t think this is all about me anymore.
And I thought marriage would be easier’

Today is relationship day.
So now I have to remember marriage is about relationship too.
I’m going to have to learn about that too.
I may be getting  into something that might be over my head.
What do I do now?

I’m not sure.
I may have to try to understand her.
And maybe I won’t get my way all the time.
There’s an awful lot I haven’t thought about before.
I guess I have some work to do.

It might be worth your while.
Dr. Tony

Sunday, February 21, 2016

Criteria for a successful marriage


Re-posted from 6-10-15


The Criteria of a Successful Marriage

2-22-2016

Monday

Relationship Day
What are the criteria
For a successful marriage?
They probably are the same as they always have been
Here’s a long standing textbook definition
Note it well!
I am attracted to my partner
We have a lot in common with each other
And I choose my partner as much as
My partner chooses me
Again, note it well!
    I am attracted to my partner
This assumes a physical attraction
And more
There is something about this person that draws me to him
Or that makes me want to be with her
   We have a lot in common with each other
Regarding what we enjoy doing
Regarding family and friends
Beliefs and values
And what’s important to each of us
  I choose my partner as much as my partner chooses me
It must be a wholehearted choice
Between two lovers
It must involve two people
Both feeling totally chosen



Dr. Tony
What a beautiful thing a marriage can become!