What’s Marriage All About?

What’s Marriage All About?

3-23-16

Wednesday

Relationship Day

What’s Marriage All About?

It’s whatever you want it to be about.

Uh-oh! I forgot to tell you,

That the “you” I mentioned above,

Is really about the two of “you”.

That changes everything!

Now I have to think about me and her

Not just me.

This is getting complicated.

I’m not used to thinking about someone else.

This is new to me.

Oh boy! I’m not so sure of this anymore.

Maybe I’ll have to make some changes.

Maybe I’ll have to listen to her more.

She might have her own thoughts on stuff.

And they may be just a little bit different from mine.

I may have to rethink what marriage is about. 

I don’t think this is all about me anymore.

And I thought marriage would be easier’

Today is relationship day.

So now I have to remember marriage is about relationship too.

I’m going to have to learn about that too.

I may be getting  into something that might be over my head.

What do I do now?

I’m not sure.

I may have to try to understand her.

And maybe I won’t get my way all the time.

There’s an awful lot I haven’t thought about before.

I guess I have some work to do.

It might be worth your while.

Dr. Tony

Parent-Child Relationship

Parent-Child Relationship

3-16-16

Wednesday

Relationship Day

Parent-Child Relationship

What is this all about?

Parenting is all about love

But so is the Parent-Child relationship

It too is about love

Relationship comes from two Latin words

That identify “a carrying back and forth”

“ A communication of love”

Relationship is a giving of love

That’s the purpose of parenting

Loving one’s child

And what is the goal of the parent-child relationship?

It’s a profession of love of the parent for their child

And  the child’s statement of love for their parent

What a beautiful relationship that can become!

Parent-Child relationship

Parent loving child

Child loving parent

Love!

That’s what it’s all about

Dr. Tony              

Love Helps Me Trust

Love Helps Me Trust

3-9-16

Wednesday

Relationship Day

Love Helps Me Trust

You can only trust those you love

So be careful whom you trust

Even God

You won’t be able to trust God

Unless you love Him

Or what he stands for:

Goodness!

Trust depends on love

You can never trust God

Unless you love Him

It may be time for you to begin to love God

Now is that time

Now is always love’s moment

It’s God’s moment the author of all love

God is good

It is time to love Him

And then you will be able to trust Him

And ask for His help

And all his goodness

He is the source

Of all you require in the universe

Go to him!

He has all you need

Starting with love

It’s the source of trust

Peace and joy

And you will find all you need in Him

And you will find it right now

How I love you, my God and all your children!

Dr. Tony

The Art of Forgiveness

The Art of Forgiveness

3-2-16

Wednesday

Relationship Day

The Art of Forgiveness

It’s an art

A creative act with beautiful consequences

Not because another human being is forgiven

But because the forgiver is freed

From the burden Of holding on to all that anger and negativity

What could be more beautiful than that?

Forgiveness doesn’t say

“You were right”

And the forgiven one does not even have to know

That you have forgiven them

The benefit is all yours

You no longer are the captive bird

You are free of your cage

No longer do you need to carry that burden

What a talent it is to forgive

You don’t need to be that captive bird

Nor do you need to carry that burden

Forgiving is a gift you give to yourself

You didn’t wrong another person

You wronged yourself

Now you are free

And as a result of the forgiveness

You will likely feel calmer

It’s a relief. It’s freedom

I can move on

Forgiveness means seeing the light of God in everyone

Regardless of their behavior

It brings peace to us

And Peace to the world

Much of the above is taken from previous poems  of mine on forgiveness

Dr. Tony

Saint or Sinner?

Saint or Sinner?

2-24-16

Wednesday

Relationship Day

 

Saint or sinner?

Choose one or the other

You always have a choice

What do you really want?

Are there really valid choices?

Good or bad

Is that a choice?

So why would I choose “bad”?

Maybe we’re not always thinking

Maybe we should do more thinking

Maybe we are responsible for our failure to think

That’s a lot of maybe’s

There’s another choice

Mediocrity

Maybe it’s not an expressed choice

Maybe it’s something we fall into

Maybe mediocre Is no different than sinner

They both end up in the same boat

One that’s sinking

Saint

It may be the right choice

It may not be difficult

Give it a try

What do I have to do to be a saint?

Just be nice to people

Be kind and considerate

Smile

Be happy

It sounds easy

Maybe it is, if you want it

Dr. Tony

Criteria for a successful marriage

Criteria for a successful marriage
Re-posted from 6-10-15

The Criteria of a Successful Marriage

2-22-2016

Monday

Relationship Day

What are the criteria

For a successful marriage?

They probably are the same as they always have been

Here’s a long standing textbook definition

Note it well!

I am attracted to my partner

We have a lot in common with each other

And I choose my partner as much as

My partner chooses me

Again, note it well!

    I am attracted to my partner

This assumes a physical attraction

And more

There is something about this person that draws me to him

Or that makes me want to be with her

   We have a lot in common with each other

Regarding what we enjoy doing

Regarding family and friends

Beliefs and values

And what’s important to each of us

  I choose my partner as much as my partner chooses me

It must be a wholehearted choice

Between two lovers

It must involve two people

Both feeling totally chosen

Dr. Tony

What a beautiful thing a marriage can become!

Keep Thinking Love

Keep Thinking Love

12-30-15

Wednesday

Relationship Day

Keep Thinking Love

You can do no better in life than that

Because God is love

And love is an antidote for anxiety

That’s how we deal with anxiety

We love

God is love

Love is a beautiful thought

It is the most beautiful thought we can think

It is the thought that will say

Goodbye to anxiety

Think the thought over and over again

The thought of love

It’s the antidote to anxiety

There’s no better thought

It’s a remedy

It’s love

It’s you and I and the Source of all love

Choose love

Speak the word

I love you

Oh children of God

I love you all

We are all One

Dr. Tony

The Origin of Overreaction

The Origin of Overreaction

12-16-15

Wednesday

Relationship Day

Overreaction’s Origin

In the time of the Cave Man

She and he

Faced many dangers

It was the time for “fight or flight”

If you couldn’t outrun the beast

You had to fight him

It was the time to react swiftly

Fight or flight

It’s no longer that time

We no longer have the constant need

To physically protect ourselves

Or we better not think we do

That time is over

We must accept the new reality

It’s the time to think

Think and respond

Think calmly

Then and only then respond

The cave man now

Needs to be turned into  

The Thinking Man

Homo Sapiens

The wise man

No more overreaction

Take a deep breath

Breath!

It’s time to respond

It’s time to think clearly and calmly

You will rarely come across a beast

It’s the time to think

It’s a time for wisdom

Dr. Tony

What is Panic?

What is Panic?

12-9-15

Wednesday

Relationship Day

What is panic?

Panic is bad

People come to the emergency room

Because of a “heart attack”

And it turns out to be a panic attack

That’s bad

Panic

It makes you think the worst

It will create fear

Fear of the unknown

Terror, fright, dread

Fear of losing control

Panic

It’s horrible

I don’t know what to do

Where to go

I need help now

I can’t stand it

Panic

It makes life so difficult

I feel helpless

I don’t know what to do

I’m on overload

Help me!

Pleaseee…

Help me!

Dr. Tony

New Blog Home

New Blog Home

12-2-15

Wednesday

Relationship Day

Today is relationship day

And on this beautiful day

This blog will be about our relationship with God

New Blog Home

But the story is the same

It’s all about God

Love, Peace and Joy

That’s God

Love, Peace and Joy

There’s no better description of God than that

Who are we?

What’s our goal?

What do we wish to be?

Perhaps we can become

The personification of God

Love, peace and joy

In the image and likeness of God

New blog home

Let’s continue to make it a beautiful home

A home where we find

Our own unique vision of God

And create our own personification

Of Love, Peace and Joy

Our own beautiful image of God

Who are we?

The best person we can possibly be

And God smiles upon us

And is well pleased

Dr. Tony

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