Habits Can be Broken

Habits Can be Broken

2-27-16

Saturday

Happiness Day

Habits Can be Broken

And some should be broken

If they are unproductive make them productive

Or they will hurt you

Don’t make excuses for keeping those that are of no value

You’re wasting your time

And maybe you’re afraid of change

Don’t be!

Change is good

Bad habits must be changed

Because they are unproductive

Break those bad habits

Here’s the start

Your belief that you can do so

And you will!

Don’t hang on to unproductive habits

They will do you in

And the most destructive habit of all is

Anxiety

It’s not something you need

Decide to change those anxieties one at a time

You can do it!

Habits can be broken

Break your anxiety habits

Each one of them

Identifies an opportunity for change

They are your opportunities for change

Now is the time

Do it!

There are therapists that can help you

Dr. Tony

Bruder Counseling Center

It May Never Happen

It May Never Happen

2-26-16

Friday

Healthy Living Day

Photography Credit: Scenescapery

It May Never Happen

And I worry about it just the same

And that leads to more worry

And worry after worry

It’s the Law of Attraction

A negative thought leads to another negative thought

A positive thought leads to more positive thoughts

Choose positive thoughts

It may never happen

But I let it bother me

I have done that

And I am still working on breaking that habit

It’s a habit

Which needs to be broken and can be

It’s time to do so

It may never happen

But I can’t stop worrying about it

But that’s not true

I can stop!

But I must believe that I can

I can find the way

And I can learn to believe in myself

It may never happen

But I let it happen in my head

I bring it to life

And it takes on an existence all its own

It comes to life

It’s happens in my head

It’s anxiety

Habits can be broken

Let’s talk about that tomorrow

Dr. Tony

Mediocrity Surrounds Me

Mediocrity Surrounds Me

2-25-16

Thursday

Caring for Self Day

Mediocrity Surrounds Me

I’m mediocre

I’m not going anywhere

I’m neither here, nor there

I’m the nowhere guy

I’m not a sinner not a saint

I’m the nowhere gal

I’m just not going anywhere

I’m in the middle

I wish I were somebody

I wish I were special

I wish I were happy

I wish, I wish

I have no goals that get me somewhere

I’m just not going anywhere

I’m a nice guy

I’m a nice gal

I’m liked

I can be fun

I’m okay I guess

I’m not bad 

I’m just not going anywhere

I’m mediocre

I’m stuck

I don’t know who I am or who I am supposed to be

I’m okay I guess

I’m no better than most

I’m no worse

I’m just not going anywhere

Counseling is about going somewhere

Bruder Counseling Center

Dr. Tony

Saint or Sinner?

Saint or Sinner?

2-24-16

Wednesday

Relationship Day

 

Saint or sinner?

Choose one or the other

You always have a choice

What do you really want?

Are there really valid choices?

Good or bad

Is that a choice?

So why would I choose “bad”?

Maybe we’re not always thinking

Maybe we should do more thinking

Maybe we are responsible for our failure to think

That’s a lot of maybe’s

There’s another choice

Mediocrity

Maybe it’s not an expressed choice

Maybe it’s something we fall into

Maybe mediocre Is no different than sinner

They both end up in the same boat

One that’s sinking

Saint

It may be the right choice

It may not be difficult

Give it a try

What do I have to do to be a saint?

Just be nice to people

Be kind and considerate

Smile

Be happy

It sounds easy

Maybe it is, if you want it

Dr. Tony

Forgiveness Revisited

Forgiveness Revisited 

 

Forgiveness Revisited

2-23-15

Tuesday

Caring for Self Day

In counseling I find many patients

Who have difficulty forgiving

And who would profit greatly

If they learned to forgive

For that reason I am reposting this article on

"Forgiveness"

(Previously posted on 2-5-15)

 

 

 

FORGIVENESS

 

It’s Healthy to Forgive ...

 

Whatever you don’t forgive

You carry with you

It’s your burden

Free yourself of the burden you carry

Forgive

Choose to be free

 

Why carry the burden of another’s “sins”?

Are they really sins?

So what if they are “sins”?

Do we really want to drag them along with us?

 

Is forgiveness a weakness or a virtue?

 

“The weak can never forgive

Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”

Mahatma Gandhi

 

Imagine that!

Only the strong can forgive

Be strong!

 

Anyone can hold a grudge

It takes character to forgive

When you do forgive you free yourself from a huge burden

You are not saying what was done was ok

Or that the person deserves forgiveness

You may or may not continue a relationship with that person

Let go of grudges!

You deserve peace

 

Why hang on to the past?

Forgiveness frees us from a past burden

It gets us unstuck

 

Holding on to a grudge is like drinking poison

And expecting the other person to die

It only hurts you

 

When you forgive

You set the captive bird free

And then you realize

You have been that captive bird

 

It is also important to note

That forgiveness is about

love

If you really want to learn about love

You  must learn to forgive

 

The learning process takes time

You must believe in the value of forgiving

And then experience the fruits of forgiving

It should ultimately make us feel good
 

I’m Free
 

Freedom feels good

Dr Tony

Criteria for a successful marriage

Criteria for a successful marriage
Re-posted from 6-10-15

The Criteria of a Successful Marriage

2-22-2016

Monday

Relationship Day

What are the criteria

For a successful marriage?

They probably are the same as they always have been

Here’s a long standing textbook definition

Note it well!

I am attracted to my partner

We have a lot in common with each other

And I choose my partner as much as

My partner chooses me

Again, note it well!

    I am attracted to my partner

This assumes a physical attraction

And more

There is something about this person that draws me to him

Or that makes me want to be with her

   We have a lot in common with each other

Regarding what we enjoy doing

Regarding family and friends

Beliefs and values

And what’s important to each of us

  I choose my partner as much as my partner chooses me

It must be a wholehearted choice

Between two lovers

It must involve two people

Both feeling totally chosen

Dr. Tony

What a beautiful thing a marriage can become!

Happy Prayers

    Happy Prayers

Originally posted 11-14-15

Happy Prayers

2-21-16

Sunday

Happiness Day

Happy Prayers

But shouldn’t all prayers be happy?

After all, they are prayers to God

And why wouldn’t each and every prayer to God

Not create happiness in us?

Happiness

Shouldn’t the mere thought of God

Make us happy?

Even at times

Ecstatically happy?

My God is a happy God

Isn’t yours?

If your God is not happy

Then that may affect your own happiness

And make you sad

Happy prayers

They are the result of viewing God

As a happy God

Why not view God that way?

And create your own happiness

A happy God

Is the result of your vision of God

See God as happy

And your prayers will be happy

And you will be happy

Create your own happiness

God has given you that power

Dr. Tony